The Land of Smiles may be full of cheery women with toothy grins but it is still a poor country and thus some women may use whatever means they can to rise to the next socioeconomic level. Remember this when you are going to meet your little brown farm girl’s family.
You can and you must resist. “If you wanna be in love, get a dog,” at least for a reasonable period of time. Sex isn't love and Thai women, at least working women, have this figured out and I think this is where at least some men go wrong. A working girl (woman) who is sleeping with a man, giving him the girlfriend experience of a lifetime has simply turned the relationship into a business transaction with sex and affection. Nothing new about this.
Making a relationship work with any woman is difficult enough, even if when you share the same culture and background. Add a language barrier, cultural differences, and financial complications into the mix and making a relationship work with a Thai woman is like playing Russian roulette with more than one bullet.
In the beginning of your time as an expat, get to know the country, the people, the language, and the culture. Thai culture is like a huge Tootsie Pop that you keep licking and licking and yet you never seem to reach the chewy Tootsie Roll center. It is highly doubtful you will ever discover all the ins and outs of Thai culture and this is perfectly okay, but at least get to know the playing field before you begin playing the game.
If you are certain you want a relationship, proceed with caution. This might sound ridiculously stupid but it is surprising how many guys I’ve met who despite knowing the pitfalls of getting seriously involved with a Thai woman before they really should have, dive in headlong. If you are unfamiliar with the ways of Thai women versus those of the women in your own country, taking it extremely slow is probably the best advice anyone can get.
When you are looking of a woman who is relationship material, meaning a woman worthy of calling your girlfriend or wife, you should consider several places off limits.
1) Beer Bars
2) Go-Go Bars
3) Massage parlors of any type
4) Discos like CM2, Angels Disco, Sheraton Rivas, Spasso’s, etc.
On a positive note, Thai women will make it easy for you to take it slow; if your potential love interest hops in the sack on the first date, chances are extremely high she is not quite as innocent as you may think. Not that there is anything necessarily wrong with this but do not kid yourself; Thai culture (like many other cultures) generally dictates that good Thai women make their man wait.
From her perspective, the friend is tagging along because she is not ready to be alone with you; she does not trust your manipulative male ways or she does not trust herself.
If all goes well, the time will come when you and she have your time alone and sleep together. For many Thai women, once is all it takes for them to fall in love. After this, it’s all downhill…just kidding. It may or may not be but if you’re the type who likes to party all night long and come strolling in at 5 AM, you might want to rethink your quest for a relationship.
Men and women search the world over for true love, yet once married many complain about their better halves, professing the world of the single, free to do what they want, when they want, as the greener pasture. Remember the old adage, "Be careful what you wish for, you might just get what you want."
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