see and hear, and then use this information to decide whether the person is worth more of your time. based on what you've seen. I was asked by the sender if I would be willing to bring my wife along for dinner with whomever his love interest shall be. First he wrote there was no one in particular, then a week later when he wrote in asking if I was going to respond to his initial message, there was a Thai woman in his life. I guess he works fast. Of course, he offered to pay for the meal and all he wanted was for me to check out "his new girl." However, if I was a chick and I suspected some dude I didn't know was trying to figure out if I was bad or good, I'd tell him to come back when he became a man.
Honestly, I have zero patience for this sort of thing. Pay me, don't pay me, I don't care. Ya know why? Because if you have to ask someone for an opinion of the woman you're with, then you haven't got the confidence in yourself to be in a relationship. Granted, she's from a different culture. Granted, he's never met her. But, and herein lies the most important point, what's the hurry? Whatever happened to courting a woman and learning about her while figuring things out along the way? Is that tradition dead? I don't think so.
There's one very important rule (I'm big on rules) that many men completely forget when they come to Thailand. Here is the rule and I'll spell out it slowly for any dummies out there:
Rule #357 - Learn how to say NO. That's N-O for you geniuses in training.
You control your purse strings. You can or can not open your wallet. You can or can not make a Western Union transfer. You can or can not make a bank transfer.
If she asks for money, tell her politely that you weren't aware she was a whore. Is this a sex for money transaction or are you just trying to separate me from my hard earned cash because you think you deserve it more than I do?
If you don't go in expecting too much and you control the purse strings, then what do you have to lose? What is then so important about what someone else thinks? If you're going to cave in to her feminine wiles, you're going to do so no matter what I or anyone else says. History has shown that men care very little what others tell them — even when what they're being told is that their love interest is a slut, a whore, and her affection can be bought by the highest bidder.
Guys, if you're thinking of having someone check out your girl to give you the okay, think again. They're not the one going out with her, sleeping with her, or taking care of her, you are.
Time reveals all.
Remember that grasshoppers for these three words will serve you well.
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