Men in Thailand need to learn to say no, but even more importantly, they need to have firm boundaries and be capable of sticking to them. Men who come to, or live in Thailand, either have boundaries and seldom have problems, or have nothing but problems with Thai women. Boundaries - know yours and stick to them!
To take a test to see what sort of boundaries you have, click the link below:
I scored an 18 on this test, my buddy scored a 15, and my wife scored a 13. Most of my friend's Thai friends scored under 10, with most between 6 and 8. BTW - There will be one more video going up this month.
In this week's video, I'm asked, "Can foreigners ever have the same rights as Thais?" While it is possible to become a permanent resident here in Thailand, and also a citizen, there are few incentives to do so. Also, there is a huge distinction between being a citizen in Thailand and being treated as an equal.
In the podcast, I talk about just how inefficient Thai schools can be, how visiting them is frustrating, the staff is apathetic, and how unwilling or unable they are to make a positive change. The Thai government recently spoke of doing away with foreign English teachers, however, in my own kids bilingual school, the only people who speak a lick of English are the westerners. The Thais speak the usual "Hello, how are you, I'm fine, thank you," nonsense.
On the same day as I visited my kids school, a Thai woman decided she would step to the front of the queue even though she had taken a number. She saw me at the front of the queue, and for whatever reason, decided to jump in front of me. Of course, I politely reminded her that 35 came after 32 and we were ahead of her.
"I don't care," she said. "Well, I do, so get your ass to the back of the line."
If you're planning tentative move to Thailand, that's probably a good thing. For many a man has moved to Thailand, supposedly forever, only to find himself down on his luck a year or so later. If you're coming to Thailand for a summer, or a year, or you are just playing it by ear, then you're one of the smart ones. Quite a few men come here without doing any serious research or on the word of a buddy who took a two-week vacation to Thailand.
Even worse, are the guys who know they're mentally and emotionally screwed up, and yet, they still think making a move is a way to change their life. Maybe so, but if you're a veteran with serious PTSD, like the guy who wrote me, then you really have no business moving to Thailand until you handle your issues. Moving to Thailand is supposed to be fun and an enjoyable process; if you're mentally ill or need ongoing physical care, Thailand is probably not the place for you unless you have the cash to pay for around the clock care.
In this video, a veteran writes and pours his heart out to me, then tells me how he'll move to Thailand and become a professional Muay Thai fighter. This despite having no training and not knowing how to spell M-U-A-Y. Sorry, I just don't see it happening, and this video is a good example of someone who probably has no business setting foot in Thailand. Instead, he ought to stay home, get professional help, and take care of his mental issues. If you need help, Thailand is not the place for you, believe me.
For a year, or more, I have been talking about going to Ecuador. I have been involved in a few movies and one thing I have learned is often it takes much longer to get started on the movie than it does to actually produce it. Well, the time is drawing closer and there's a good chance I'll be going there in the next month or two (or three). Below is a short video I made telling those involved why I wanted to go to Ecuador and why I wanted to learn to surf.